TBH, if you’re online in the 21st century, you should probably already know what TBH means. But even if you knew what the popular texting initialism meant a few years ago, you may not be aware of how it’s become a sort of attention currency on social media.
Learning What TBH Stands For and How to Use It
TBH: To Be Honest
TBH stands for “To Be Honest” and often appears before someone breaks honest news that a listener may not want to hear (“TBH, you don’t look cute in that dress.”). You may also see it before a poster’s confession (“TBH, I’ve never seen Star Wars.”) or after a flattering statement (“I love your Star Wars dress, TBH.”).
‘Give Me TBH’
A more traditional use of TBH is to be frank or blunt with someone, as in “If I’m being honest” or “To tell the truth,” even to the point of snarkiness. However, unlike many (most) online trends, TBH has actually gotten sweeter with age.
Gen Z has taken to using TBH (lowercase or capitalized) as a way to trade compliments on social media. They’ll post a selfie with the caption “give a TBH” or “Post a tbh and I’ll return,” and their comment section fills up with compliments like “tbh you are really pretty” or “tbh your smile is so handsome.” The original poster then returns the favor by adding TBH compliments to the commenters’ recent pictures. Like many Gen Z attributes, the new incarnation of TBH is direct but also more fulfilling than its predecessor.
How To Give a TBH to Anyone
Want to give a TBH, but aren’t sure where to start? Depending on who’s posting, there’s a way to TBH everyone in a platonic (and not stalkerish) way.
For a friend: “TBH I wouldn’t be where I am today without you.”
For an attractive stranger: “TBH you have really kind eyes.”
For a funny poster: “TBH your posts always make me laugh.”
For a colleague or classmate: “TBH you make my day better.”
For an influencer or celebrity: “TBH you’re a role model for me.”
For a very stylish or inspirational person: “TBH you really set the trend.”
For a friend of a friend who TBH you first: “TBH you look like a really sweet person.”
TBH is not the time to flirt or come on to someone. Take that business elsewhere (that’s what DMs are for).